Mazeltov to Darren and Batia Cohen on the birth of a daughter and mazeltov to grandparents Phillip and Roslyn Cohen and Hylton Surat and Vanessa Surat.    Mazeltov to Stanton and Belinda Roux, on the birth of a daughter and mazeltov to grandparents Lester and Carol Chadwick.    Mazeltov to Ross and Ari Tucker on the birth of a daughter and mazeltov to grandparents Stephen and Alicia Tucker and Selwyn and Andy Diamond.    Condolences on the passing of Terry Hepker husband of Lynda Hepker, father of Jedd and Claudia.    Condolences on the passing of Denbeigh Joselowsky wife of Solly Joselwosky, mother of Rhett Davis and Wendy Diamond.
Dvar Torah by Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D.

Dvar Torah by Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D.

The Torah states: “Then Judah approached him (Joseph) and said, ‘If you please, my lord, may your servant speak a word in my lord’s ears’ ” (Gen. 44:18).

What did Judah intend to do?

Judah indicated that he wished to speak very softly, virtually whispering “a word in my lord’s ears.” What was the purpose of that? Furthermore, why does the Torah bother to tell something that does not appear significant?

The Torah is coming to teach a lesson in communications: If what you have to say really has merit, speaking softly and gently will enable you to be heard. Shouting is a giveaway that your argument is weak; the other person will tune you out and just think of his rebuttal.

King Solomon says, “The gentle words of the wise are heard above the shouts of a king over fools” (Ecclesiastes 9:17). A soft voice can actually drown out a shout.

Judah believed that his argument for the release of Benjamin was very convincing. In order to impress Joseph that what he was about to say was valid, Judah said, “I am going to say it to you softly.”

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