Dvar Torah by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin
Avraham asked his trustworthy servant Eliezer to find a wife for Isaac. Eliezer journeys to Aram Naharayim, taking ten camels with him. Upon approaching the town, he neared a well and prayed to G-d:
“Let it come to pass that the maiden to whom I shall say: ‘Incline your pitcher that I may drink,’ and she shall say, ‘Drink and I will give your camels to drink also,’ she will be the one whom You have designated for Your servant, for Isaac; and thereby shall I know that You have shown kindness to my master” (Gen. 24:14).
Eliezer, the devoted servant of Avraham, had learned from his great master to appreciate the profound significance of helping others. Chesed is not merely a kind act, but a manifestation of one’s belief in G-d. Doing chesed is an act of emulating Him whose kindness is without bounds.
Eliezer realized that the woman who would be deemed worthy of becoming a mother of the Jewish people must be the paragon of chesed. He therefore fashioned an appropriate test for determining the bride of Isaac to find someone who loved to do chesed, to help others and try to save them from bother under all circumstances.
And what happened? Rivka ran of her own volition to water the ten thirsty camels — an act which she was not even asked to perform. This act of chesed indicated that she was worthy of being Avraham’s daughter-in-law. Remember to look for kindness in choosing a spouse!